Compassion Above Love
Compassion Above Love
Life & relationship coaching

You don't need the whole plan. Just the next real step.

Practical 1:1 coaching for your work, your relationships, and the self-doubt that quietly runs both. Not a long look back at what happened. A clear look at where you are, and the next move that's actually yours to make.

Grounded in attachment and behavior-change research
Is this you?

If any of these sound familiar, you're in the right place

  • You're good at your job, but part of you is braced to be found out.
  • You undercharge, and you can't quite make yourself name a higher number.
  • You go quiet in meetings, or freeze when the room turns to you.
  • You can't take credit for your own work, even when it's plainly yours.
  • You keep putting off the visible work that would actually move you forward.

Most people find me through the work side of this, but the same patterns run through relationships and the hard decisions too. If that's nearer your mark, you're just as welcome here.

Who you'd be working with

Who's on the other end of the call

For as long as I can remember, I've been the person people call when something's tangled. I've spent years in work where you learn that someone is carrying something long before they have words for it. I've since built that instinct on a foundation of attachment and behavior-change research. Now I do it as coaching: practical, forward, on your side. On a call I'm plain-spoken and warm. I'll tell you what I see, and I won't sell you anything you don't need.

How I work, by hand. The coaching is me: a real person giving you real attention. Your details, and any anonymized version of your story, never go into an AI tool, and the guidance you get is mine, not something an AI generated or boosted. The free daily companion is a tool I hand you for your own use; it's optional, and using it has no bearing on our work together.
How the work helps

Change shows up in what you do

Built on behavior-change and attachment research, and on one plain idea: change shows up in what you do, not just how you talk about it.

Get the goal concrete

A vague goal can't be worked. We make yours specific enough that you'd know it if you saw it, then point everything at it.

Work from behavior, not feeling

Insight is cheap; behavior is where change actually lives. We find the one place you're stuck, try a small step between sessions, and let the record show you what moved.

The point isn't to need me

You leave steadier, steering your own choices: a reframe you repeat until it's a habit, one that holds after we stop.

How it works

Small steps, in your corner

Straightforward by design. You'll know after one call whether it's a fit, and either way you leave with something you can use.

1

A free fit call

Twenty minutes. We get you moving on one real thing, so you feel what the work is like. I'll tell you the cost and my honest read on fit. I'd rather be straight than sell you. You leave with a start either way.

2

First Steps

Four sessions, usually about six weeks. We start from what's actually in your way and work it: real practice between sessions, forward motion you can feel.

3

Keep going

If it's working and you want more, we set a rhythm that fits your life, for exactly as long as it's useful, and no longer.

Book a free 20-minute fit call
Before we begin

Real work, and real limits

Coaching does real work, and it has real limits. Being straight about both is part of doing it well.

First, let's make sure you're supported

Needing therapy doesn't mean coaching can't help; the two work well side by side.

What I don't do, plainly. You're welcome to bring your history into the room; we just won't camp there. The work is the skills for what's next, not reworking the past. I don't diagnose, treat, or prescribe (that includes diets and supplements). If something you're carrying needs a therapist or a doctor, I'll help you find the right one, and we can keep working the forward pieces alongside their care. And because coaching isn't legally privileged the way therapy is, I keep only minimal, coded notes, never the substance of what we discuss.
What it costs

Plain and steady

No promos, no games. Start now and your rate holds as a founding client.

FreeFit call

Twenty minutes. A real start on one thing, plus an honest talk about cost and fit.

$125Single session

A 50-minute session, whenever that's the right fit.

$450First Steps

Four 50-minute sessions, paid up front. A little less than four singles.

Paid sessions begin only after you've read and agreed to the Coaching Agreement.

Start with a free fit call.

Twenty minutes, free. We take a real first step together, and I'll be straight about the cost and whether I can help. If we're not a fit, you keep the step.

Book your free fit call

You can find an article shaped like your problem. You can ask Reddit about your problem. A coach finds the specific behavior you need to change to get unstuck.

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